Autism and Elmo Tells the Truth

Did anyone else get to watch the Sesame Street special that was on TV last week? Elmo’s dad (I didn’t even know he had a dad! 🙂 ) helped him video call his friends because he was missing them so much. The TV screen even looked like a computer and the screen was split between Elmo and whoever he was talking to. Honestly, I only half-listened to it (I was using the quiet time for a marathon call with Tracie!) but it was a good show.

When we found out about the special, we wrote it on her calendar for Tuesday. I have discovered as long as she has something on her calendar every day, she stays fairly happy with being home instead of going to their day hab. Some days, I’ll be honest, what we are having for supper is all I can think of to write and she’s okay with that. She asked all day when Elmo would be on and if she had to wear PJ’s to watch. I told her it would be after supper.

Often, when we finish supper, she goes out to sit in the porch swing, but not that night. She went right to the couch and began her wait – of two hours! I told her I wouldn’t let her miss it – even offered to turn a timer on, but she stayed right where she was. At 7, she was ready, but she didn’t seem to be watching it as closely as I thought she would. She giggled several times, but was serious through much of it. When it was over, she jumped up for her bath and didn’t mention it again.

It wasn’t until the next morning that I found out just how much she had been paying attention. She asked about going to grandma and grandpa’s house and I told her we couldn’t. She laughed and said “Elmo says stay home!” Yes! Thank you, Elmo! She still may not understand why we can’t go many places, but since Elmo said it, she was willing to follow his lead. 🙂

As much as she wanted to be like Elmo, Wednesday and Thursday were a little off for both of them. He was louder than he has been in a long time and was stuck on his anxiety song. She had her “look” going on – the one that anyone who knows her well knows means she is getting upset and the situation needs diffused before she blows. Luckily, I was able to find enough things to distract her and by that afternoon, they were both back to normal – whatever that means at this point.

Casey has said she is going to Hopewell on May 1st. I have told her many times I didn’t think she would be going that day and have decided that we need to write cancel on her calendar for part of May, too. If that changes, it will be a happy surprise. I just think she needs enough warning that she won’t be going that day – or hell may come to our house that morning. I am so proud and amazed at how well Casey and Rob are handling this drastic change in our lives, but I’m realistic, too. They will reach the end of their patience.

It has been really hard for them to not spend time with grandpa and grandma and Tracie. They do get to see Mandy and Cory, but not often, and we don’t go to their house. I truly thought they both might be okay missing Hopewell for a few days. When Casey labeled this spring break, it seemed easier for them to accept. She is still calling it spring break – a “weally wong spring break” (that’s really long spring break! 🙂 ) Rob really hasn’t said much. He still spends time (a few hours a week) with his buddy from work, Bob (staff), and Bob has told him many times that Hopewell is closed and has taken him by the building to show him.

Casey is thrilled to spend time with Reagan, another staff from the day hab. Honestly, if it weren’t for Bob and Reagan, I don’t even want to think about what our lives would be like right now. Having those visits to look forward to bring such huge smiles. We also walk a few miles every day. As we walk by the roped off playgrounds, Casey says “dat’s silly” amd that she isn’t sick.

It’s hard enough to explain to a typical person the need to wear masks and how the virus can be shared before you even feel sick, but to Casey and Rob, it’s nearly impossible. She will look at me and say “not sick! good!” and I have to tell her again that I know she doesn’t feel sick, but we have to keep grandpa and grandma safe and stay home. (on a side note – my parents are remodeling their upstairs. Casey has decided the corona virus is upstairs at their house. No clue how she ever came to that conclusion! 🙂 )

I will be honest. As much as this stay at home stuff has disrupted millions of lives, it has been nice, too. (and no, I am not discounting the financial and health scary stuff!) Most days, by the time they get home from day hab, they need to decompress in their rooms until supper. I get home, start supper, clean it up and I’m ready to crash. This time together has allowed us to spend some awesome time having fun with each other.

Casey and I do crafts. Rob will paint, too, and I got to play with Legos with him the other day. (As long as I didn’t touch his favorite ones, anyway!) I love walking with them and talking – trying to engage them in things we see around us. Sometimes, it works, other times, I might as well be on the moon for all the attention they pay me. But, I keep trying – we aren’t too tired to keep trying! Some days, it’s Casey and I dancing around the living room while Rob watches us with a little grin and a “They are nuts” look in his eye.

If you missed the Elmo special, it is online and Sesame Street also has a ton of other free stuff. I’m sure not everyone is so enthralled with Sesame Street, so hearing Elmo talk about staying home and being safe may not work for everyone. But, it may be worth a try. Please, stay safe, stay home, stay healthy. Give yourself permission to cry or yell or sleep or eat junk food – whatever you need to take care of yourself. Your child is depending on you now more than ever. 🙂