Autism and the Sense of Touch

Autism and the Sense of Touch

Honestly, the sense of touch is messed up with both Casey and Rob. They are both a mixture of hyper-sensitive and hypo- sensitive when it comes to their skin.

Rob will dig at insect bites until they are bleeding because he doesn’t feel the pain. He doesn’t notice cuts or bruises. He had a broken collar bone and it took hours for him to slow down enough that I knew something was wrong.

I have to turn his shower water on because he won’t notice how hot it is and will get burned. He burned his finger badly as a teen because he laid his hand against a hot pan and didn’t notice. He doesn’t notice sun burn or the sting of a bee. (However, he has had bad reactions to insect stings and ended up in ER, so he is afraid of them.)

He needs the weight of many blankets to be able to sleep as he can’t feel the pressure of just one. He loves standing in pouring water for the deep pressure it provides.

But – his sense of touch is hyper in some areas, as certain food textures will make him gag. He can’t wear certain fabrics as he will break out in a rash. His body temp does not regulate well, as he can overheat but not feel cold.

He enjoys his skin being “brushed” (a light tickle that I never thought he would notice). He also likes being lightly tickled on his arms and back, but he also enjoys tight bear hugs. It’s always a question whether he needs more or less of something.

Casey gets hot and cold easily. She can adjust her bath water so it’s not too hot. She will jerk away from hot things and she’ll wear almost any fabric. Sunburn doesn’t bother her and she rarely picks at insect bites.

But – she doesn’t feel pain. She sliced her leg on a mattress spring (it was nearly new – I still don’t know how it happened!) and the only way I knew was she was in the bathroom forever and I went to check only to find her patiently putting bandaids on her leg. It took 16 staples to close the gash.

She is terrified of needles because they hurt, but can stub her toe and not notice. She doesn’t like water pouring on her and food textures are not a problem. She is afraid of bees, but I think it’s because Rob and Mandy don’t like them, so she just follows their lead. 😊

The sense of touch can affect your child in so many ways. Things you never thought of – the seam in their sock, the tags in their clothes, how hard their chair is, whether they can sleep at night or even whether they can concentrate in school. After all, imagine trying to concentrate when all you can focus on is how tight your shoe feels.

It can also be dangerous when a person has hypo-sensitive touch. Just like Rob’s collar bone and Casey’s cut leg – injuries can be severe and they won’t notice. And when an injury does occur, you have to be really vigilant about how it’s healing. They aren’t able to tell you if it starts hurting more or is getting infected. It’s another thing to consider if your child pulls away from you and doesn’t like hugs. It’s hard not to take that personally, but in reality, it’s probably their sense of touch.

If your child is having behaviors, definitely consider everything they wear – what they are sitting on – how they hold pencils. Their behaviors might be as simple as a tag in their shirt rubbing their neck. (Tagless clothes are amazing!) When you have a child like Casey or Rob, who are both hyper and hypo sensitive, it’s difficult to know what is causing the behavior. Like everything else with autism, it can be tricky to discover the root cause. The best way is to write down everything your child is wearing each day and watch for a pattern. It’s a pain to do, but if you can discover the issue, your child will be so much happier! (and so will you! 🙂 )

Autism and the Proprioceptive and Vestibular Senses

Autism and the Proprioceptive and Vestibular Senses

I’m sure many of you wondered if I knew what I was talking about several weeks ago when I mentioned I would be talking about the six senses. Many people have never heard of the proprioceptive and vestibular senses and they are ones that can really affect people with autism. Rob and Casey both have issues with their proprioceptive/vestibular senses.

Basically, the proprioceptive sense tells your brain where your body is. Like – closing your eyes and being able to touch your nose with your finger. Rob can’t do it. Casey can, but she struggles with it. It also tells you whether your feet are on concrete or grass. Receptors for the proprioceptive sense are deep in joints and muscles. You need your proprioceptive sense for smooth body movements so it is vitally important for all motor skills.

Vestibular sense is more for balance and spatial orientation. It helps you balance on one foot. It’s how your body understand how you are moving – like what direction and how fast, even whether or not you are moving. So many people on the autism spectrum have problems with fine or gross motor skills and these two sense are the reasons why. Just like with the other five senses, a person can have a hyper or hypo sense of their body and how it’s moving.

Rob struggles more with proprioceptive issues that Casey does. He needs deep pressure to help his body know where it is and how it is moving. When he was younger, this was a much larger issue and he often had a weighted vest on or a weighted lap belt in school. I also used wrist weights with him (don’t buy the “sensory ones” – buy ones that people use to work out. The cost is about a tenth of the sensory ones!) when he was struggling to write. As odd as it sounds, his handwriting is beautiful – nearly perfect. His sense of order demanded perfect letters, even as his body couldn’t easily write them. This caused him to have a lot of anxiety and still does at times, but he has learned that he doesn’t have to be perfect. 🙂

Ankle weights (again, go to the sporting goods section!) are also wonderful tools to help someone with proprioceptive issues. Weighted blankets can help them regulate their body and sleep better. Casey loves lots of blankets piled on her, but she doesn’t need them like he does. As a child, her handwriting wasn’t good and it still isn’t. Now, it is more that she simply doesn’t like to write (though this could be a sensory issue) – she loves to color and draw, though. But – writing is a very precise activity where her art is more whatever she likes.

I’m sure Rob’s issues with his vestibular sense were the main cause of his many accidents as a child. He was clumsy and could trip over a piece of string. He fell into our concrete porch steps and needed stitches. He fell down the last few steps into our basement and earned a helicopter ride to a children’s hospital when he wouldn’t wake up the next morning. He jumped down a flight of stairs and broke his collar bone. And the list goes on…. His vestibular sense didn’t help him and he wasn’t afraid of anything. A really bad combination! (How he jumped off the roof of our house and never got hurt is beyond me!)

Rob also used a platform swing when he was in elementary school. It was right in the classroom and he could lay flat on it as he practiced saying his spelling words and math facts. We quickly discovered that what he learned as he was swinging stuck with him. He learned so much easier when he was swinging. The swing moved to the junior high with him, but he didn’t seem to need it as much. The swinging movement calmed his vestibular and proprioceptive senses enough that he was able to concentrate.

Equine therapy was also a huge blessing for both of them. While on the horse, they practiced many things. many of the games involved throwing bean bags at specific colors or shapes (they knew these, but having to throw the bean bag required their body to learn how to do what their mind wanted, if that makes sense – it could be a struggle, especially for Casey). They learned to shoot basketballs with both hands on either side of their horse. “Crossing mid-line” is a big issue. This means their right hand never goes to the left side of their body and vice versa.

A big indicator of a child with vestibular or proprioceptive issues might be when they are writing. If they switch hands when they get to the middle of the paper, you may want to keep an eye out for other signs. An occupational therapist can give you suggestions to help your child. Casey switched hands as a child, but she is definitely right handed now. Rob switched, too, and favors his right hand, but uses his left often.

Fine motor skills, such as cutting, writing, buttoning and tying shoes, can be a problem for children with hyper or hypo vestibular and proprioceptive senses. Casey seems to have worked through her struggles and while she does have problems once in a while, for the most part, she does everything she needs/wants to do. Rob still can’t tie his shoes. I’ll admit, we worked on it for years and years and then decided it wasn’t a battle worth fighting anymore. He might be able to do it, now, but he likes his slip on shoes and will ask for help if he needs, so it’s not likely a skill I will push him on. There are other things that are more important.

If you suspect your child might have vestibular issues, try spinning or jumping with them several times a day. A small trampoline works well or an exercise ball that they can sit on. (Rob sat on one at the desk in his room for several years.) There are also small seats that you can place on chairs that allow your child some movement while still sitting still. Swinging is another great option. Anything that will help your child learn to control the movements of their body (and have fun!) is great. I wouldn’t recommend riding a bike, though – at least not until they have a little more control. 🙂

For proprioceptive problems, try weighted items. Swinging may help with this, too. As with everything else, what works for one child may not work for another. Try something new and see how your child reacts. It is obvious fairly quickly what they like and what helps.

An occupational therapist should be able to give you more ideas on what may help your child. Don’t be afraid to ask – sensory issues are not always the first thing people think of and those issues are often the root of so many problems.

Autism and Age Appropriate Gifts

Autism and Age Appropriate Gifts

I was scrapbooking pictures from Casey’s birthday this morning and, of course, the picture with this post caught my attention. She was so happy and excited to get a new Bert! I have a whole series of photos that shows her excitement and that made my day! You know how you feel when you find that perfect gift for someone and you see their happy smile? I felt even happier than that.

But as I was putting her pages together (with her help – she loves bright colors and the more, the better! 🙂 ) I realized that lately, I’ve seen so many posts about buying only age appropriate gifts for people with special needs. Now, before we go on – there are thousands of people with autism or other special needs who only want age appropriate gifts and that’s awesome! Go for it! But – for many, what they like are items for younger people – or other obsessions that make no sense to anyone but that person. And that’s ok!

Before we drill age appropriate into too many heads, let’s stop and think about the craziness that occurred many years ago when Beanie Babies came out. Those people who were mobbing the stores to buy the stuffed toys were not children – why was it okay for those adults to buy Beanie Babies, but it isn’t okay for Casey to love Sesame Street?

Why is okay for people to collect comic books, but it’s not okay for Rob to want Wizard of Oz items? Which, by the way, are incredibly collectable to people of all ages! Why can’t he love Mighty Morphin Power Rangers when so many adults love The Avengers? (including me!) Who decides what is age appropriate, anyway?

Rob loves Legos – and I’ve seen hundreds of pictures of “typical” adults with their intricate Lego pieces. Casey loves color by number books – and how many adult coloring books are being sold now? Thousands! Rob wants metal signs and I see shows all the time where people are buying signs for their collections.

My point is – you need to do what’s right for your child. Too many people have too many opinions about how to raise other people’s children. Ignore them. If your child wants Barney videos, buy Barney videos. If your child wants a Cookie Monster shirt, buy a Cookie Monster shirt.

I do understand the reasoning behind pushing for age appropriate items. For many of our children, their “quirks” already make them stand out and if they are walking around with a Big Bird toy, they’ll grab even more attention. I get it. But – why should I try to change my kids to fit into a “normal” mode? As Dr. Seuss said, “Why fit in when you were born to stand out?” Stand out happily, brilliantly, awesomely! This works for us – no mold fits our family and I love it!

Casey and Rob don’t care about “normal.” They don’t care what others think of what they buy or what they wear. (Rob worries about people being upset with him, but doesn’t care about shallow opinions.) They want to be happy and get to choose their new things when we go to the store. They want Santa to bring them new toys and for the Easter Bunny to hide eggs with candy (Well, Casey wants the eggs hidden – he couldn’t care less).

Remember – this is how our family feels. You need to think about each child differently, as some will only want the same things as others their age. It all depends on the person and their abilities. Casey does like getting clothes, but she doesn’t care about the brand of jeans she wears. Neither would want new phones or other gadgets many people their age would want. Your child might want those things. I’m in no way saying that what makes Casey and Rob happy is what everyone needs to do.

I’m just wishing that people would stop worrying about what they think I “should” buy for Casey and Rob. I would never dream of telling another parent what they should purchase for their child – why in the world do people feel it’s okay to tell me because they have autism?

Rob’s Easter basket included packs of cards, packages of clay and craft foam. He was so happy! He was busy for hours, cutting and ripping. Some would say it’s a waste of money to buy things he’s just going to rip up. I say, he’s happy and it’s his money, so leave him alone. Casey had very simple Easter crafts to do. Some might say they were too childish for her – but she was happy to paint her bunny figurine and it’s proudly sitting on her dresser now.

So don’t let anyone tell you what you “should” be buying for your child. Who cares what they think, anyway? What you want is to see a beautiful smile when they open their gift, just like the one on Casey’s face as she holds her new Bert. 🙂

Autism and Easter Traditions

Autism and Easter Traditions

This has been a busy week for us and there has been a lot of excitement about the Easter Bunny coming. Because tomorrow will be a day of celebrating, family, and fun, I thought I would post today.

Ever since Grandpa Mack’s birthday, Casey has been thinking about Easter. (Tomorrow, after her bath, she’ll start thinking about my birthday because it’s the next “holiday” 😊) We colored eggs last weekend, which threw her off a little. We usually do it the day before Easter. But – little changes like this are good for her.

Coloring eggs is something Rob truly and completely loves so this year, Mandy and I decided to go big and boiled six dozen eggs. She had different kinds of egg decorating kits for Casey to try. Rob is strictly a dip in one color and wait guy.

As soon as Mandy got here, Rob sat at the table to wait. He even followed us outside with the dogs to be sure we didn’t forget exactly what needed to happen. 😊 When we went back in the house, he went right to the table again.

Casey tried a few different things, but she was done quickly. Rob sat for an hour, dropping eggs into the dye, stirring them and laying them on the drying racks when he decided the color was perfect. He doesn’t say much – he takes egg coloring very seriously.

Casey is now happily waiting for the Easter Bunny to come. She wants him to hide 10 eggs with candy in them and she is hoping for a coloring book. Rob hasn’t mentioned the bunny at all. He just listens to her and thinks his deep thoughts. A few years ago, we saw the Easter Bunny in the mall. Casey was over the moon excited and couldn’t wait to get closer. Rob stood with me, grinned and said, “person.” He recognizes costumes, but she either doesn’t or doesn’t care. (My guess is she doesn’t 😊)

He will go to sleep tonight, but she probably will have a much harder time. She may not be able to until she sees that the Easter Bunny has been here – he has to be really quick in our house!

Casey just cut out four dozen sugar cookies and is talking about her Easter shirt and socks (she is wearing Santa ones right now and I wouldn’t be surprised if she wears Christmas or Halloween on Easter! 😊). Rob is building Lego Christmas trees. As you can see, some of our holiday traditions aren’t like anyone else’s and that’s okay!

I hope each of you has a relaxing, joyous and fun-filled Easter. Enjoy whatever traditions you may have and celebrate that they aren’t like anyone else! Happy Easter!